2015 was an interesting year, I gained, I lost, I learnt a whole lot. I cried a little, stressed often, but still managed to smile through it. Undeniably, 2015 taught me a lot about life and about myself, but most importantly it challenges me for the future. So here are my top few things I’ve learnt during the year that was:
1. Have a dream.
From my early days, I am a daydreamer. As a kid my dreams changed so often, even my parents were overwhelmed with it. As a student I found it hard to concentrate in class when one of my daydreaming spells came for a visit. But somehow, as an adult, for a while I have forgotten how to dream. Somehow life became this constant black and white, where you do things because it is comfortable and you already know how to survive it. For a while it left me stagnant in a plateau, and in the beginning of 2015 I was quite aimless. Dreams introduce colours in life, and when done correctly can motivate you to take risks and challenge yourself to do things you have never thought you can do.
Dreams, best taken with an open mind, dash of positivism, and frankly needs a lot of courage to realise. But you gotta start somewhere, right? 😉
2. Perfection are nothing without a start.
I am a perfectionist, my closest and dearest all know this, on top of that I am also an idealist. They would just stare and shake their head at me, and I wouldn’t blame them from doing so. This year I’ve learnt that perfection are nothing without completion. I’ve been telling myself to do this blog for ages, but it wasn’t until late 2015 that I realised, perfection is just an idealist’s illusion, there will never come a time where I am 100% satisfied with myself and my work. Perfection is relative and most of the time, your own self are your biggest critic, certainly the case with me.
So in the end, I put myself out there, raw and flawed, with a tiny bit of polish (I am still a perfectionist after all). I tell myself improvements can come with time, because learning does too.
3. You can do anything (within reasons) as long as you put your mind and focus to it.
In 2015 I challenge myself to start things and hold myself accountable for it, earlier during the year it was calligraphy, and the second half of the year was exercising. I’ve always been the type to shy away when things get too hard (maybe from sheer laziness, I haven’t quite figured the reason why), but in 2015 I actually tried to hold myself accountable, and so far it seems to be working. I learnt that challenges does something funny to willpower, that euphoric rush of accomplishment fuels me to do it again, and again.
Of course, there are days where I fell back to my old ways and let myself indulge in sheer laziness, but what is good about a habit is that it nags at the back of your head like a broken record, it instills guilt within you so that this laziness you’re feeling are only temporary. It won’t stop you, but you’re allowed to take a break, we are only human after all. 😉
Actually, one of my biggest secret are friends who believes in you and encourages you to push yourself, and letting them know about goal helps them keep you accountable too. Build your own support system so that when you fall, you won’t hit the ground.
4. Be yourself. Be awesome. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
Cliche, I know. Everyone tells you that, but maybe because it is true. As I grow up I realise that life is too short to be pleasing everybody, you are the one that is harmed the most in process of doing so. You are unique, there is only one you in this world, embrace it. If people can’t handle you, then maybe they are not the right people for you. There will always be people who accepts you as you are, and then you’ll know that they are the ones you should keep.
This road goes both ways and if you can’t stand certain types of people, then maybe they are not the right people in your life too. Be true to yourself, no one knows you better than yourself, so you should always listen to what your heart tells you.
5. Losses are a part of life, take the good memories with you.
So with this I close my 2015 chapter, and hope that 2016 are going to give me lots more challenges and things to learn.
Bring on 2016, I am ready. Onwards and upwards!